Two weeks of supervised time, and nothing's gone wrong.
That's not nothing — that's the case. The exact arrangement a court would give you is already happening, on its own, without anyone ordering it.
Two weeks ago the reason to call was the threat. That's still real. But it's not the reason anymore.
The reason now is that the two of you have landed on something that works — supervised, no overnights — and neither of you had to be told to do it. That almost never happens on its own. The easiest possible moment to write an agreement down is while nobody's arguing about what's in it.
None of this is required of him right now. He's agreeing to supervision because he's choosing to, today. Nothing stops that the next time he's upset, or decides he's ready for more. There's nothing on paper saying otherwise.
And the longer it runs with nothing filed, the harder it gets to act quickly if you ever need to. Courts weigh whether your actions match what you're asking for — weeks of calm with nothing on paper can end up read as "this wasn't urgent," even though you know exactly why it was.
That's not a reason to worry. It's a reason to do the boring thing this week, while there's nothing left to disagree about.
Victoria Justice Access Centre
8:00 am to 5:30 pm, Monday to Friday. Closed weekends.
225‑850 Burdett Avenue, Victoria
Free. Everything can be done by phone or video, so it doesn't matter that you're not in town.
"I separated from my husband two weeks ago and I have our four-year-old daughter with me. There's a history of family violence, drug use around my child, and a written threat he sent when I left. Since then he's been having supervised time with her and it's been working. I'd like an appointment to get that written down, and I want to know whether I should also apply for a protection order given the threat.
I am not trying to stop him seeing our daughter. I need conditions on it — which is already what's happening."
Say "family violence," not "abuse." It sounds like it means being hit. It doesn't — it covers threats, intimidation and control with no physical violence at all. It's the term that gets you seen properly.
This isn't the hard call. It's writing down what's already working, before it has a chance to stop working on its own.